Today two different trainees on my current CELTA course mentioned that they didn’t want to ask for help because they felt like they might be bothering people. This is a feeling I often used to have, but I’m hoping I’ve got over now.*
What I’ve realised is that most of the time when you ask somebody something, they’ll say yes.
Need help? Ask: you’ll get it.
Stuck at home and bored? Invite somebody to do something with you: they’ll do it.
Nobody to spend your birthday with? Tell your friends: someone will be free.
What’s the worst that can happen? They might say no.
And if they do? At least you tried.
We’re normally a lot more worried about bothering other people than they are about being bothered.
Of course, it’s a two-way street. You have to be prepared to say yes when other people bother you. After all, you never know where it might take you.
* I still have trouble getting started on a new social life when I move somewhere new, but four months of CELTAs and moving round a lot have (hopefully!) made me a bit more proactive. We’ll see what happens when I move to Poland!